Is Marriage Hard?

Is marriage hard?

Well it depends. Depends on your expectations in the marriage. It depends on if you go into marriage selfishly.  The two people involved in marriage are human. Not emotion-less robots who don’t need encouragement from their spouse or love and affection. Marriage does require you to bend. Sometimes to bend over backwards, a lot, to the point where you feel like you are about to snap in half or break.

Some people may think well if my spouse loves and respects me, then I shouldn't have to bend in the first place. That way of thinking is selfish, thus making a marriage feel hard emotionally. We all have to bend at one time or another. We may have to bend for our children, friends, parents, co-workers, even strangers. So why in the world would one not expect to bend for the one you call your spouse. The person you committed to spending your whole life with. Often times when we bend for those outside of our marriage we tend to make a point of kindly letting them know “Oh it's no bother, just glad I could help you.” but when we bend for our spouse, do we give that same response?

The funny thing is, when you focus on the  love and respect you both have for each other you won't break. You will bend and you will sway, you will also stand up straight.  At times it may seem like you're bending for so long and standing straight for barely a quick minute.  When you focus on the love you have for your spouse you become unselfish.  The more you look to give and encourage your spouse,  you stop bending and start leaning. You begin to lean into each other and  hold each other up. What once seemed so hard  now becomes so beautiful.

Is marriage hard?
The answer you get depends on if the person you ask is bending or leaning in their own marriage.
xoxo, cc