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Disclaimer OK if you are still learning who you are then please stop reading now and come back once you know and love thyself. Meanwhile for the rest of us who know who we are, love who we are, but still realize eff-in break ups hurt and suck keep reading.
Well what if you already love and know yourself. Just because your hurting over a break up, doesn't mean you don't know or love yourself. It really bugs me when I read articles and that's the sole message. It's almost like instead of just saying "I really don't know what to tell you to help you feel better" the author opts to just feed me some BS that makes me feel even more confused. Uhmmm, No thank you! I don't need added confusion on top of hurt emotions.Now don't get me wrong of course there are things you can try to take your mind off your current situation, but honestly a separation/break up will have some grieving and there are many stages of grieving. Grieving doesn't feel good but it is a part of the process.
So once you have exhausted yourself by doing all those 50-11 things on that "How to survive a breakup" list and your laying in your bed alone and those sad feelings start to come over you, allow them to come. It's ok to cry, to be angry, sad, hurt. Those are natural feelings and part of the process of breaking up. Accept that it's going to hurt. It's going to hurt... until it just doesn't hurt anymore.
You will get through it and you will grow from this experience. I learned another way to look at a break-up from Lisa Nichols as, not as a break up cause your not broken and don't look at it like you got dumped cause your not garbage. Instead see it as the relationship is complete. Yes complete. It served it's purpose. Not every relationship is meant to be for a lifetime, some are just for a season.
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